Social media can be CREEPY. Don’t get me wrong, it is an amazing tool to stay connected with family and friends, as well as build relationships with readers, bloggers, and people interested in the topics our blog covers. However, social media has completely changed the way that we communicate with other people. Not to mention that tools like Facebook can be a hodge podge of people from all the different walks of your life (childhood, school, old jobs, church, volunteer, etc.). Another aspect to note is that everyone has their own etiquette book of what they believe is or isn’t appropriate to post. People also become much bolder behind the computer than in real life—cyber bullying, flirting, or random people who want to connect online but not in real life. With that being said…Below are 5 examples of the way that Facebook can be rather creepy.
1) You friend me but you ignore me in real life.
Have you ever had someone request you on Facebook but ignore you in public? I’ve had several instances when people request me but when I speak to them in public, they look at me as if they don’t know me. Can someone say awkward?!
2) You are my friend’s parents and you want to connect.
I just feel weird about being Facebook friends with my friends’ parents. I have some friends whose parents are non-judgmental…but I also have many friends whose parents are conservative, religious, or just plain nosy. I see too many mamas on Facebook policing posts—random! Example…a friend posted that her mom was tripping. She said it in a joking and loving way but somebody else’s mama chimed in, who didn’t really understand the context of Facebook lingo and said, “Oh no, don’t dare say that about your mother!” The friend tried to defend herself and it ended up being an odd exchange. Facebook has transformed into Mommybook. Lame.
3) Facebook (yes you the channel), are YOU still playing content puppet master and only showing depressing news on my timeline?
A few years ago it was revealed that Facebook literally played with people’s emotions in a special experiment that only showed people positive OR negative content to see their reaction. I have days when I wonder are they still testing. Have you ever logged on and EVERYTHING you saw was depressing? Post upon post upon post. Sometimes it’s just too much to handle. Since Facebook is like a diary, I’ve had some days where literally multiple Facebook friends seemed like they were in a serious depressive state. It can be a tad bit overwhelming. Then when I check-in with said person in real life, they say, “Oh, I’m cool.” Really?
4) You poke me.
Umm, it’s 2016. Who is still poking? Don’t do it. Unless you and your friends have created a unique meaning for what this weird feature means, don’t use it with people who don’t share this language. Let it go.
5) You send vague direct messages.
Do you ever receive messages from people but they don’t say what they want? It gets to the point where I don’t even want to open my messages because I get weird requests. A few years ago an old classmate posted a message to my timeline on Facebook saying she needed my number to speak with me. I thought she wanted to chat about school, maybe our reunion, something related to school (the context of our relationship was school…to be honest I hadn’t spoken to her in years or seen her at any school events since graduation). She was cool back in the day, so I DMd my number. She reached out via phone and then sent me a follow-up direct message reminding me that she really needed to connect. We finally spoke on the phone. It was not the conversation I expected. She had been “desperately” trying to reach me to pitch me a random product she was selling, not because she thought I was a good fit. I had generically been added to her sales list. Soooo, let’s just say that was bold and felt super fake. Had she told me what she wanted upfront, I could have told her I wasn’t a good fit. Random!
These are my top 5 examples of how Facebook creeps me out. What would you add to the list? Leave a comment below and let me know what you think.
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